We are all doing self work. It’s the way of the world these days. Besides honoring your emotions, standing in your truth, and meditating, I wanted to share two of my favorite ways of learning about one’s self.
A fascinating personality assessment based on a test you can take here: https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test
They use a scale so that you are not one thing or another. For instance, I am an extrovert. But only 79% of me is extroverted. There’s a very demanding 21% introvert that likes down time. (And remember, being extroverted or introverted means that you are energized in social or solo situations.)
My type, ENFJ (they offer and extra letter, but I am skipping that for now), is receptive, reliable, passionate. But what about things I could work on? 16Personalities claims that I can be unrealistic, overly idealistic and condescending. I will have to watch those things in myself to create better balance.
One fun thing you can do is go to Instagram (follow me, please!) and search your type. ENFJ memes are life. One says: NO, I wasn’t flirting with you. I am just nice. That cracks me up, I talk to people freely and some take it more seriously than I mean it. Now, it’s a meme.
My MBTI affirms that I like helping people. My suggested fields are ones that help people grow, like teaching. We are leaders that like a good challenge. MBTI has helped my understand myself and others.
A remarkable mix of astrology, I-Ching, your chakra system, and the Kabbalah, Human Design can go as deeply into personality dissection as you are willing to go.
I learned about HD from Chetan Parkyn and Carola Eastwood: https://humandesignforusall.com/. There are many teachers and practitioners available as well as websites and books.
Human Design begins by separating us into five categories. I am a Manifesting Generator. Next, we are given our personality type, I am a 6-2. Just stop there. Find yours by putting your birthdate and place into an app and stop. Read everything. I learned so much by understanding 6-2. I found out why I make so many suggestions. It’s because (ping my MBTI) I like to help people. Chetan actually said something like that to me, and then I knew it was a curse. LOL… Okay, it’s not a curse. It’s a gift that can get out of hand when I am not paying attention.
And that right there was worth the price of admission. I had to learn to let other people learn in their own way. Referring to the possibility of my MBTI being condescending, I found out that I wasn’t always being helpful. Sometimes my help was annoying people.
Next, there are nine centers (some are chakras) which are either open/undefined or not open/defined. Open centers are susceptible to outside influences. Defined centers are more stable in their characteristics. After that you can learn your channels and gates. The results are shown on a graph. You can read and learn yourself or hire a professional to give you a reading. I have done both, with no regrets.
Learning Human Design gave me insight into my personality, as well as my families. We are each different and handle situations from our own “authority” (another HD attribute). Our actions are sometimes innate. Knowing what you do because of your nature helps you to understand what is learned, what can be healed, and what needs to simply be loved.
Learn why you do the things you do. If you are in fight or flight, call me and schedule a session. We can unearth that energy, so you feel safe. However, if you are an introvert living with too much stimulation—that may cause terrible fight or flight.
Not only does the subconscious hold our deepest fears and worries, it can show up what we have subdued from past lives. We will repeatedly create opportunities to heal. Make yourself as safe as possible. Meditate and equalize your energy fields. Find neutral ground to emote and feel. Then love yourself. Love yourself beyond reason, make your love bigger than you thought you could.
Beloved being, I wish you joy on your healing journey,